by Chandru Bhojwani

Observations

Throughout life there are multiple observations that we make on a daily basis, and these numerous thoughts that cross our mind are stored way at the back. After much pondering, I felt it was time to put pen to paper and bring some of these long lost thoughts to the forefront.

Glam Shots

Facebook, Friendster, My Space and every other social website is littered with vanity shots on crack. Some have them up for fun, while others utilize them as a tool to garner attention and interest from the opposite sex (or maybe the same sex). The issue is that ‘Glam Shots’ are simply no more than false advertising. The individual never looks as good as the picture, and he/she is only creating high expectations in turn, setting the audience (and themselves) up for disappointment. So boys and girls, next time you drool over a glam pic of a supposed hottie on Facebook, just keep in mind, ‘Glam’s a scam!’ and demand a Polaroid!

Reflections and Ratings

As the saying goes ‘the friends you keep reflect who you are,’ and as one matures, we learn that there is a certain level of merit to that statement. Mingling with the likes of the serial party crasher or the pseudo spiritual who, in reality, is a slave to society, can (and does) alter the public’s perception of you. The thinking is, ‘if his/her circle of friends is damaged, then by association, he/she must be too’! Of course, this isn’t always the case; every rule has its exception. But more often than not, the theory holds. Hence, we are victims of perception by association – this is no truer than when it comes to the dating scene. The fact is that we are often rated by our past transgressions or conquests which can work both for, or against us. To illustrate this notion, I’ll share a dialogue that occurs every so often;

A: Dude, what about Amy, she’s cute?

B: She is but she dated Jay and he’s an absolute wan*er.

Such ideology is a two-way street, which is to say when an individual is involved with someone out of their league, it only raises their stock value in the eyes of the public. Many will argue that such thinking is superficial. Unfortunately, such is the society we live in.

Another Notch

We’re all aware of individuals who womanize and ‘manize’ and etch another notch on their bedpost with every conquest. However, there is another method of ‘notch accumulation’. There are people who lead others on and keep stringing them along for the constant slew of attention they receive. They never take it further; knowing they could have them at the drop of a dime is just as good as having them. In turn, they continue to feel better about themselves while once again increasing their appeal. If actress Karisma Kapoor was the girl next door as opposed to the Bollywood diva she is, she would hardly be as coveted as she is. That ‘appeal’ and the desire to conquer is as much of an aphrodisiac as anything else on the market.

Haters

We’ve all grown up with them and know exactly who they are. These malcontents, who stew with…

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